Flipped Script: Giving Her Your Number ....

This is my break for the day. I've got mad work to do, but I needed a break from writing. Thus what am I doing? You guessed it, writing more.

I got into this intriguing conversation with KayJay (also known as HeathClaire) two days ago about men giving their numbers to women.

In the old days, the man courted and pursued the woman. But in the world we live in today (Remember the phrase women of the 90s?) that's not always the case. Women pursue men. In public. In private. In clubs. In jest.

Not always, but they do. One of the tactics men have taken to in general is actually giving women their number instead of asking for hers. When a man does this, it usually means one of two things:

1. He's just not that into you (I hate that phrase or) and is going to let you decided if you want to call him and pursue him hoping maybe he'll warm up to you.

2. He is into you but is too shy or insecure to ask you for fear of rejection and would rather give you his number and hope that you have enough interest to call him that way he puts himself in a position where he doesn't embarrass himself.

Kayjay says she has a problem with either instance of this, and it's easy to see why. Who wants someone who's not into them and who wants an insecure man?

I, on the other hand, understand take this in from a third perspective. This coming from a guy who's not insecure and if the woman's the right one he will pursue at all costs.

Guys are flipping the roles on women, and here's why:

Every guy I know - shy, insecure guys included - has had at least one girl he had, and I mean had, to pursue. You know, the girl that he thought was too bad and gave him two seconds of her day, so he had to see if there was something more there. He gets her number and calls her the next day, and lays his game on thick like Robin's wife. (I've been there)

Then there are the inbetweens, the girls where you have some interest but you're not immediately sparked. Thus, you don't put forth as much effort as before. You may talk to her long enough to ask her for her number, but you know you won't call (I did this one last weekend). Most every guy I know has also encountered this woman.

There's also the instance where the fine girl you're not even paying attention to makes a move on you (it's happened to me, too) to get you to notice her. It's becoming more common nowadays.

All these things considered, why is it such a bad idea to give the women in situation No. 2 your number instead, and reverse the roles? It's not. If a woman has that much interest in a man (in today's world) she should pursue him the same way men have been chasing women since the beginning of time.

I mean, don't (some, not all) women get up the gall to become groupies when their favorite athlete or R&B singer comes through their city? Yeah. I know mad women who would throw their panties and all that comes with them at Reggie Bush without dude even saying a word.

Why not pursue the ordinary, good-looking brother you think is the shit at the club, grocery store, mall or Target? What's so different? If you're that into him, you should MAN up and start the pursuit.

Does this make you look like you're chasing a man? No, not if you know how to play your cards and the game right.

Kayjay is of the accord where she believes that the man should still pursue the woman.

But we're not living in the 1950s, slavery is over and racism ... you get my point with the first two. The male-female chase has evolved, and with it, we almost must evolve our games. That includes when we approach a female and how we do it.